How to Not be a Loser

If you live your life in fear and constantly lying to yourself, you are a loser. The good news is, you are not sentenced to the life of a loser unless you choose to. 

You can change. You can come out of the skin of a loser. 

When I say you are a loser, I am not referring to your life makeup and possessions. I am not referring to your status in society. I am referring to the way you view and show up for yourself (or the way you DO NOT show up for yourself). 

So before you think I am bullying you for not living a certain lifestyle, please understand that is not what this is about. This is about me influencing you, in the most positive way, to be better. To be more productive, not busy. To be more diligent, not a hustler. 

You life as a loser ends today

If you want to stop being a loser the first thing you need to do is keep your word. Gone are the days of you saying you will "start tomorrow" only to never start. Gone are the days of saying what you will accomplish when the circumstances line up, but they never do and you never start. 

As the old folks would say: Say what you mean and mean what you say. 

Do not open your mouth to say anything until you KNOW you intend to do it. This is important because whenever you say you will do something and don't, you begin to trust yourself a little bit less. You begin to doubt your own word and what you say holds less value. Then you begin to live like a loser, because nothing matters, not even what you say.

The second thing you need to do is believe that you are worth it. And you are. There was a price paid for your life. And whatever reason there is for you to be here, you have a job to fulfill it. 

There are general things that we should all do: eat well, exercise, be good to others, etc. But each of us has a purpose that is solely for us to work toward. When we don't show up, when we lie about our intentions and when we continually make excuses we are not only letting ourselves down, but we are also delaying the people who will be impacted by us showing up. 

That makes us a double loser. 

Take action

Here is how you will stop being a loser...TODAY.

1. Go to God in prayer. Be remorseful and apologize for the delay and the time you have wasted. Ask for forgiveness and direction. If you do not know what to do, be obedient. Seek God on a daily basis until it becomes clear.
2. Make today the last day of excuses and empty promises. You will either do it, or you will not do it. But you will not make excuses for yourself.
3. Where there are questions, there are answers. For the things you do not understand, seek clarity. Do not think "I don't know so I just won't do it." Think instead, "I do not know and I will find out."
4. Keep your word. If you say you will do something, do it. No excuses. 

Make this your regular habit and you will end the cycle of loser activities in your life.  Check out the podcast episode for this topic here: (4) Episode 40: Stop being a loser - Michon’s Substack