7 Important Things Women Should Know

Every woman will experience life in a way that is unique to her. We often tussle with the same issues recycled and repackaged, but there are 7 things everyone woman should know, no matter your walk of life. 

The first is to save money. You can research and plan out your own savings plan or decide what percentage you will save and where to hold the money, but saving is essential. 

We never know what curveballs life will throw or what experiences will happen that cause us to need to rely on a cushion. Taking the time, energy and effort required to set yourself up for success for the unknown and unplanned is never a bad idea. If you’re struggling with your finances, I recommend I Will Teach you to be Rich by Ramit Sethi. It’s not specially for women, but it is an impactful and finance changing book for people who don’t care to be finance nerds, but still want to win at life financially. 

The second thing to know is that sacrifice doesn’t require self abandonment or self sabotage. We have a tendency to put ourselves in compromising situations in order to accommodate other people. We think that in order to commit to something or to make appropriate sacrifices we have to abandon our own identities. 

The truth is you don’t. You can show up for yourself, while sacrificing for others. This looks like having appropriate boundaries and standards in place prior to agreeing to do things for others. These boundaries don’t always have to be verbally communicated because it’s mostly for you to keep in mind. 

Learning to regulate your responsibilities while also keeping yourself a priority is the key to ending internal rage and self induced suffering. 

The third thing to consider is you should always seize the opportunity. Even when you have to do it alone. 

We have a tendency to make excuses for the things we want to do but choose not to. The time wasn’t right, we didn’t want to do it alone, it was too expensive, you didn’t have the support…

We won’t always have the same access to opportunities that present themselves. It is to our advantage to take them when they arrive. When there is something you want to do, but there seems to be a bump in the road, ask yourself how you can make it a reality. Ask yourself what resources do you have or need in order to take advantage of what’s being presented. 

Don’t let the opportunities continue to pass you by while you make excuses for not taking them. 

The fourth thing women should know is we don’t need to chase perfection. We need to walk in righteousness. In choosing to honor God and be bold on our actions according to His will, we realize that “perfection” is something we strive for but never achieve. This can be disheartening.

Sometimes admitting it’ll never be perfect gives us the excuse to not even try. “I’ll never be perfect so I may as well just…” insert whatever you like there. Chasing perfection will leave you disappointed because we are flawed. Choosing to walk in righteousness allows for us to continually grow and seek after the Father’s Heart. 

The fifth thing all women should know is that you need to take care of yourself. Not just externally. This is taking care of yourself temple by feeding it well and moving it often. 

This is taking care of yourself spiritually by minding your consumption. Read the Word of God and spend time in His presence, but also consider that what you consume through media can infiltrate your thoughts. 

Taking care of yourself means monitoring what goes in physically, spiritually, emotionally and mentally. We don’t have to operate in extremes, but we need to be responsible for what we expose ourselves to. 

The sixth thing all women should know is the importance of appearance. It matters. This is not to be confused with the pressure to present yourself as a supermodel. 

Instead, consider this an invitation to reflect on your wardrobe and presentation choices. Are you showing up as your best self? Are you dressing in a way that honors and respects you, while also being true to yourself and your expression? Or do you find yourself wrapped up in trends? 

How much of your wardrobe is based on what you life versus what you have been influenced to get? Is the way you do your hair and makeup a direct copy of someone else? Do you feel confident in those decisions? 

As a woman, your appearance can be currency. It is often the first impression people have of you and people do make assumptions based on how we present ourselves. We can complain about it being unfair, or we can take into consideration that if we love ourselves, it should be apparent in the way we show up. 

The seventh thing all women should know is that it’s you versus you. None of us can portray anyone else better than they can. No one has the exact sauce God gave to you. There’s no use in trying to copy or compare yourself to others. 

Draw inspiration. Be motivated to show up as your best self based on what you see in others instead of spiraling and growing jealous as a result of other people’s actions. 

You won’t get far trying to pretend to be something you’re not or by copying everything someone else does hoping for the exact same result. 

None of these require a degree in rocket science or any heavy lifting. It’s just a matter of seeing the issue and correcting it. If you find yourself struggling in your Womanhood, I’d like to invite you to join the next session of the Womanhood Series.  

See you soon!