Discipline, Responsibility, and Living Authentically: A Mom's Journey to Balance

Being a mom and a wife while also managing my own passions is a daily dance of discipline, responsibility, and balance. It’s a lot, and to be honest, there are days I feel like I’m drowning. But I’ve learned that finding my own rhythm, and not trying to keep up with everyone else’s, is the key to staying grounded in this beautiful chaos we call life.

One of the first lessons I had to learn was about keeping a routine that is authentic to me. I’m not a morning person, and I used to beat myself up over the idea that I should wake up at 5 a.m. to get some alone time before everyone else. It just didn’t work for me. Instead, I found my peace at night. After the kids go to bed, that’s when I would take my time. I’d read, journal, work on my passion projects, or just enjoy the quiet. It’s not glamorous, but it was real, and it did work. Then, that changed. Instead of pressuring myself to do something that was no longer working, I changed. So, if you’re not a morning person, don’t force it. Honor your natural rhythm. Find those moments when your energy is at its best and use that time for yourself.

Another big part of maintaining this balance is setting the tone in my home without being a “dust bully.” I’ve learned that expectations for cleanliness need to be realistic. The home is a shared space, and while I value a tidy home, I can’t do it all by myself. I don’t expect perfection, but I do set the standard for how we keep things. We all pitch in. My family understands that we’re a team. Everyone, including the kids, has responsibilities. It’s a learning process, but it teaches them accountability. After all, it's not about being the one who does everything, but about being the person who makes sure everything gets done. I oversee things, delegate when needed, and encourage everyone to do their part. This isn’t about micromanaging but about fostering a home where we all contribute.

This same principle of “doing it together” also applies to maintaining my own goals. Life as a mom is hectic, and sometimes I feel like I’m pulled in a hundred different directions. But I’ve learned to weave my personal goals into the fabric of my daily life. If I want to lose weight but can't find time to go to the gym, I make it work by pushing the stroller and walking around the neighborhood for an hour. It’s not perfect, but it’s progress. It’s real life, and sometimes that’s enough. For me, content creation has been another way to channel my passions. But I don’t stress about getting the perfect shot or having the perfect aesthetic. Most of my content is filmed with the background sounds of my family, because it’s authentic to me. If I had to stop my life to create, I’d never get it done. Instead, I’ve found ways to keep living while also sharing the moments that matter.

Lastly, I’ve learned one very important truth: Either do it or don’t. But don’t make excuses. The time will never be “perfect,” and life will always throw curveballs. So I’ve stopped waiting for the “perfect moment” and just started making progress in the small pockets of time I have. I’m not perfect, and I don’t expect perfection. But I do expect myself to show up, even on the tough days. Because in the end, it’s not about perfection—it’s about consistency, authenticity, and making it work my way. 

Being a mom, wife, and pursuing my own passions isn’t easy, but it’s worth it. It’s about finding balance and understanding that it’s okay for things to not be perfect as long as you’re living your truth. And when I look at my family, my goals, and the life we’re building, I know I’m doing it my way—and that’s enough.